DAVE RAMSEY

Dave Ramsey says: Kids are expensive, but if you want them, have them

May 25, 2021, 11:30 AM

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Dear Dave,

My husband and I are both 29, and we have good jobs that allow us to bring home $100,000 a year combined.

Recently, we began talking about starting a family. We live on a budget, but we still have about $15,000 in credit card debt and student loans we’re working hard to pay off.

Do you think couples should wait until they are debt-free to have children?

– Missy

Dear Missy,

You and your husband are chipping away at your debt, and that’s a good thing. It sounds like you two are determined to get it paid off and take control of your finances. You’re also making pretty good money, so keep up the good work!

OK, so the truth is kids can be expensive. From medical costs and diapers, to childcare and beyond, it costs money to raise a family.

But here’s the thing: If you let money alone or the perfect financial situation determine whether you have kids or not, you may never have them.

Now, would it be easier from a financial standpoint only to wait on having kids until you’re debt-free and there’s a huge pile of cash in the bank? Sure, it would. But children are worth more than any amount of money.

If you love each other and want to be parents, and you’re mature adults in every other area, don’t let this debt stop you.

A child isn’t going to derail your journey to financial peace. Having kids might cause you to press pause for a while on some financial matters, or slow your pace a little bit, but as long as you both stay focused and determined to manage your money wisely, chances are things will work out fine.

Just don’t make the mistake lots of parents do, especially first-time parents.

Many of them think they have to run out and buy a new, “safer” car, spend a fortune on a fancy crib, or buy all things baby from some overpriced boutique.

Do you get what I’m saying, Missy? Why buy a brand-new, $400 stroller, when a friend or relative has a perfectly good, barely used one they’re willing to give you?

It’s easy to get carried away spending for a baby. But children will be just fine as long as they have food, clothing, shelter, and most importantly, loving, caring parents.

God bless you two!

— Dave

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Dave Ramsey says: Kids are expensive, but if you want them, have them