A hopeless romantic need not be a helpless romantic on Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day can spur visions of a perfect evening out with your future soulmate, while a dateless Valentine’s for many is unfathomable.

Whether it’s a first date on Valentine’s Day or any day of the year, ladies need to heed these words: It is better to be safe then sorry.

Men are — by far and away — the more violent, predatory gender.

No, not all men are bad guys. Most are looking for a healthy relationship just like the ladies.

But men have the luxury of only focusing on the date whereas ladies have to think safety first.

There are hard, fast rules for the early dating experience. It shouldn’t matter if you are 21 or 61, anyone can encounter that unfortunate threat of danger when getting to know a potential suitor.

• Tell a friend when you’re leaving, where you’ll be and to expect a call when you arrive home safely.

• Chivalry is nice, but for the first few dates, drive yourself. Remember, getting to know someone is a marathon, not a sprint.

• Meet in public. Stay in public.

• Never leave your drink unattended. If you do, leave it for good.

• Share, but don’t overshare. Your personal information is precious, so avoid talking about it early on.

• There’s information at your fingertips. Do your homework before your date. Pubic websites and social media provide lots of personal background.

• Have an exit plan. You’re never obligated to finish the date. If it’s going south, call it a night.

• If he gets aggressive, you get crazy! Get the attention of others, yell, call for help and fight if you have to.

I never question the power of my wife’s intuition. Trust your own instincts and stay safe.

Former Phoenix police officer Paul Penzone writes occasional safety tips for KTAR.com and can be heard on KTAR News 92.3 FM.